DIY
Are you inclined to always “Do It Yourself”?
No matter how bothered you are?
No matter how HARD it is?
Are you lacking energy?
Does everything appear dark, gloomy, and dull?
Is the pain way too irritating?
Does anxiety bother you?
Would you prefer to take a nap daily – even as an ADULT? But you don’t have the time, and you can barely sleep anyway?
If you prefer to do things as usual – fix the issue yourself – so… let’s see if I can at least help you with something along the way.
I am skeptical and a bit worried that it’s necessary because I suppose you got here by doing just that. You did things yourself. With burnout, that’s a common trait. But that’s okay – making a difference by oneself is possible. If you take it seriously. To make a difference one needs to find the fault and fix THAT! If you don’t pinpoint what’s completely wrong the problem probably remains.
The Book
The book is my cheapest way to help as many as possible, and you are still doing the work yourself. Get the book and try to gain some insight into how I do things. That method seems to work.
The Dolor Detection Diary
Tackling something when the issue is too abstract, like emotions definitely can be, is a bewildering task. So to make it less bewildering and abstract, I use the Dolor Detection Diary with my clients. Dolor is a broad term in Latin which seems to cover most of what we DON’T want – pain, ache, sorrow, misery, and general suffering.
To make it less abstract one can track a few things that lead to the previously mentioned Dolor. It’s one of my client’s earlier tools to make it as clear as possible which tasks bother them and drain energy – and the opposite.
Ideally, you print it out, keep it close, and add to the paper more or less every hour for a week.
That’s seven pages for quite a lot of perspective. Then the situation is analyzed and concerns need to be managed. The tool itself does not solve the problems. You have to act to change the situation, most likely, but it helps to pinpoint what’s bad.
DDD is very helpful when used in a chaotic life where you have far more on your plate than you handle for it makes sure you take a minute for yourself now and then. A small minute, where you look up and reflect on how it actually is, how you actually feel – and what you just did that might be the cause of it. If you only notice at the end of each day that you feel miserable, it’s not very easy to understand what you should change. However, if you look at a compilation of seven days of DDD and notice that a certain behavior, a particular activity or maybe a certain person makes you feel far more miserable than necessary, it can be more concrete. Then you would have a clear problem to work with.
Writing is an excellent tool to provide space for reflection and I have had clients previously who seem to have become quite insanely fond of handwriting after we have worked together. To the extent that they continue for years afterward. Just because it requires reflection and thought to the extent that things become concrete. It concretizes during the time and forces you to think and reflect on what you find difficult and it gives you the opportunity to look back and see how it has gone. How has it been before and how is it now? “Am I following the plan as I should or am I letting things happen haphazardly?”
DDD is quite self-explanatory in how it works and one is fine to just fill in on an hourly basis for a week and then look back to find patterns after doing it for a few days. But I tried to write about it a bit in the book anyway, so if you want further insight into DDD, there’s more in the book.
Good luck! Feel free to tell me about the results afterward if you try it. =)
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