Why do this when there’s a physio therapist in every street corner, every other person is a massage therapist and the psychologists and psychiatrists are probably doing their best trying to catch them up in numbers?
Because if you’re there – I fear you might be in the wrong place.
The physio might very well be useful in the post-op or after a trauma, after you sprained an ankle or did some sports too recklessly. But isn’t it quite often they have to prescribe just general exercise to avoid complete inactivity? How about you prescribed that yourself, doing something you enjoy?
The massage therapist might very well achieve relaxation in sore muscles and relieve the pain. But isn’t it generally quite a short-term fix and the pain quickly returns? How about lowering the stress levels enough to not get the tension in the first place?
The psychologist might very well give the patients a time to vent mental issues and give them tools to handle their life way better than before. But how many do you know who tried therapy and still suffer? How about starting out with opening up to a friend? Beside that – try to take responsibility for your situation, change it if necessary.
The psychiatrist might very well prescribe a pharmaceutical taking the patient from pure hell to just fine. But is that the normal case, or is it more often from completely unnecessary misery to numb? Both depression and ADHD/ADD often seem to react very well to physical activity as well as adapting the environment. How about doing your part first, whatever that might be, and medicating afterwards?
I’m neglecting neither of the professionals above. They all have tremendous value and save plenty of people from enormous suffering daily – but something is missing.
I would like to get you to look a little wider. I would love to teach you to take care of yourself better by tending to all of life, rather than just trying to solve problems as if they where completely isolated, when they might in fact be affected by far more than you might think. I tend to people one on one generally, since I love the process and the great results we get – but to get a bigger reach, to teach more and open more eyes I’m doing some writing and podcasting as well.
I’ve practically grown up at a gym. Exercise is really important and useful. I’ve worked as a manual therapist and trained people as a PT. It can work wonders. I’ve purchased expensive stuff to treat patients passively. They made a difference. I’ve used needles and I’ve studied CBT. Those sure helped!
But it didn’t seem to be enough…
I’ve been to the university and listened to teachers talk about having a wide approach. I’ve been to hospitals and health centers to watch how they implement it. I’ve listened to my clients and added one and one together to notice that it’s generally not applied.
I’ve watched people suffer the consequences of stress for too long. I’ve watched people suffer the consequences of long term pain. I’ve watched people suffer from depression for years and years without an end…
But without much help but pills.Which didn’t seem to be enough either…
I turned to philosophy.I turned to self-help. I’ve read this and that. I’ve listened to the old and wise.
To finally deduce that it’s too complex for one kind of therapy to do the trick in some cases…. Or even for just a few. It requires perspective and a good look at the whole.
All the previous knowledge bunched together
People ought to be able to find a solution to these things when the “normal” solution of pills and “good luck!” doesn’t work (as it often does not).
People are worth saving from their miseries as long as they really try their best.
The modern healthcare is a bit too square and medicating everything isn’t the way (even though I do love science and things that work).
Rather than just tending to a little something, a small issue there or there and meeting people for too little time to tend to the big troubles in life.
Maybe you’re not as flawed as you think.
Perhaps you just need some sort of big picture. You’re in a world of specialists where more and more students and professionals learn more and more about less and less while neglecting the big picture, the individual and its’ environment. How come so many need so much care from professionals? How can we possibly need this amount of opioids, psychotropics and variants of amphetamine? Are people actually that much more sick, ill and of bad health? Or do we refuse to accept variations of people and variations of what people need and want – and relentlessly mash them all into the same mold, medicating them into what they should be to fit in today?
It’s a bold statement, but I fear that a large amount of the overwhelming amounts of pain today might very well be for no good reason at all. Too many are stuck in a rut of today’s modern lifestyle which we don’t really seem to be made for. Mostly filled with inactivity, stress, social media, keeping up with the Joneses’ , FOMO, barely eating proper food and barely having time for what we actually value. For the first time in history stress and anxiety seem to elevate the pulse more than actual physical activity does over a day for a large amount of people. Too many seem to generally suffer from mental misery instead of the physical one we evolved to endure.
Broad areas and plenty of small things makes life into what it is – as well as when it’s not what we desire as well as when all is just fine. To change that requires either very general tools like philosophy, entire ways of living or specific mindsets to influence large parts with just one thing, or plenty of them to affect the issues at hand. Affecting the pain manually and implementing physical activity will likely be used tools. Implementing pacing and the once simple thing of saying no could be others since it could lead to some peace of mind with a moment of nothing. Implementing some good food, a glass or two of pleasant mead and some socializing could turn the dullest of evenings into a lovely one. Which is great when all we have is now; if the present is great, that’s practically all we need (as long as we focus there – and not on the future or the past!). Then go on to have a good night’s sleep, wake up to amuse yourself with a hobby you haven’t done in ages and move some more. Can you do both of those lastly mentioned at the same time? Lovely. Take time to reflect and breathe. Do nothing once in a while, even though you don’t have the time. Today no one does. Take it. Ignore the to-do-list with the oh, so very important issues. You’ll never be done even if you actually do get them done. There’s a never ending stream of more. So just leave them be. Even if just for a moment.
…. But obviously it’s not as easy with long term pain as mead in an of itself, but it might be a small part, alongside plenty of other small things.
Or why not quite big ones?
Implementing the bio-psycho-social model is probably the best option we’ve got when treating stress- and pain related issues, including the cases where the origin seems to be the somewhat dysfunctional modern lifestyle. Tend to the individual, poke the physical parts, teach them to move, change the environment and be rid of the now so trendy modern misery. So that is where I see my purpose. Where I ease pain not only related to the physical – but also related to the mental health, social aspects and environmental factors – like pain from long term stress, a complete burnout, depression or a life where you feel as if you simply can never really catch up. Where it’s too complex for just some rehab training and when you don’t just need to talk to someone, but also get a good amount of results.
When tending to the bigger picture and doing what’s really necessary people happen to say things like “In some miraculous way I do feel way better today…” after a while, which… is kind of amusing. I can’t really expect more results than miraculous ones.
I’d love if my clients didn’t need me. I’ve looked at it the same way for years, since I’ve practically always worked with relieving pain of some kind… and I probably think like that more and more. I started with smaller problems – and it evolved into what it is today; a solution to quite big problems. I tend to look at what I do and reflect that it’s necessary since there’s too few good enough solutions for the problems at hand. The evolution from small owies to debilitating handicaps seemed necessary. People didn’t get the help they needed. I’d love if I didn’t need to do this, that would point to the fact that people suffered far less than they obviously do today.
It is really rewarding – don’t get me wrong, but if the goal of people being well was already crossed of the list – we’d be fine already and I could do something else.
In relation to the point that people don’t really get the help they need… That’s likely because of how the treatment methods look today. We’ll get to those in more detail later on, but a big part of what’s missing seems to be the actual holistic part if you don’t mind the word. It’s really hospitalized and clinical, rather than humane. It’s pills rather than solutions to why the pills are necessary. “The question is not why the addiction, but why the pain”, as Gabor Mate says…
In contrast to that clinical, sterile solution I’ve gotten feedback from clients in the past – and it’s mostly more of the same – the opposite to the hard and cold. It’s rather that the soft values of actually having someone looking after them are the most important. They do seem to like results of course; that’s a no-brainer. Those are crucial and essential. But having someone by their side committed to helping them through it all, someone who’s listening, someone external who’s looking at it from another point of view and customizing the solution to their needs seems to make a major difference.
With this, my hope is however, that I’ll be able to contribute to some insight and be helpful without having to be there personally for you… Or you’ll get inspired enough to actually have a conversation after a while. We’ll see. As long as you get better if you do suffer, I’m pleased. How you get better isn’t the most important thing. If you have no clue about where you’re going or how it’s supposed to happen I might have some input. So… Keep on checking in or head over to the contact page at www.mbdolor.com/contact and we’ll have a chat.
Be well! =)